Love on the internet

How did you meet your other half?
Some people go to cafés, other to parties and clubs. Some dare to go on blind dates while some purposely go to church to get a "good girl" or a "good God fearing man." Lead me to love, we call to our maker.
However, there are those who are so busy working, that they are yet  to know what daylight looks like. They keep hoping to find love too, even though they have no time to socialize.
Then there is the special category called "love on the net." These people go online just to meet their God sent. To be straight up honest about this category, I personally don't see anything wrong with it. However, it take a real skimmer; a real "discerner"; a real mature person that knows what they want, to depend on the net for a relationship.
Hoping that this is a great way to bring the right fish home can break lots of hearts, mind you. So what are the pros and cons of online dating?

Lets start with the good points:
-You get to know the person more mentally and spiritually as well as intellectually, instead of "hmm, check out them six-pack!" or "man this girl is sexy as **"
-You spend more time getting to know yourself by having to reflect on your good and bad qualities  : yes these are the intro questions normally asked on an online first date
-If you dont wanna go hang out, you may stay home behind your computer, having a nice chat on skype
-You become more creative, thinking up ways to keep the relationship going

Now the bad awkward points:
-The person behind the screen could be living a double/tripple life
-You become lazy at home, waiting for your date to show up online
-You become depressed if the special someone doesn't come online after one day
-You become anxious if the special someone doesn't reply your messages, then start to cook up reasons why you are not worth his/her time
-You become more disconnected from normal social life

...the negative points roll out easily by the way :-)

But yea, there you have it. Feel free to add your own opinions :-)

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Love on Point: Going Abroad

Love on Point: Going Abroad: My child will get the best of the best 'Cause top education is like heaven's gates So be it to sell my house and the rest For I k...

Going Abroad

My child will get the best of the best
'Cause top education is like heaven's gates
So be it to sell my house and the rest
For I know she'll make me proud in the end...(by Funkè Ojo)

These are the thoughts that linger in the minds of most parents before making that big decision to send their kids away from their roots, away from all they have learnt to love, to go study abroad. They even gamble saying, out of 5 kids if one makes it abroad then I am a happy man or woman. But who knows what the child would go through? Or the people she will meet that could change his or her life forever, either positively or negatively? The sacrifices he or she would have to make to "make it" in trying to fit into the new culture awaited? Do some ever fit in? How many commit suicide from peer pressure or simply lack of love?
Most parents would say, "oh, God will take care of him or her" or more often said "my brother is abroad, he will take good care of my child." Hmm....
Your brother abroad might also be trying to make ends meet to feed his family but for the shame of not being asked the dreadful question like "why must you sit abroad and suffer, come home," he keeps lieing to keep a front.
So parents, before you sell your most valueable land or your only family car, perhaps you could take some steps back to reflect. If your back up plan is your brother or sister abroad, remember that men can dissapoint. Period.

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What is a dream

A dream tells a story of hope. A story that some people might have thrown away to the way-side or buried in the most opaque container. A story where not all the characters might co-operate according to the expected end. Moreover, hope is for a change that is longed for in situations that might be too difficult to imagine.
So why do people dare to dream if it is almost beyond reach? Because almost beyond reach does not mean that it is beyond reach. The ones who dare to dream are the leaders of tomorrow. They are the hope for a change for tomorrow. I charge you to dare to dream because dreams do become reality. Maybe not today or tomorrow but how bad do you want the change? Funkè

Disappointments in the family circle

What would you do when the people you trust the most are the ones that are set up for your destruction? Would you live life more carefully by speaking less? hang out less? smile less? confide less? be more of an introvert? I dont know what you have decided but how about picking up some tips on wisdom?
The Word says wisdom is the principal thing, so in our doings, we should be wise. Because your sister cooked up how you would get caught in an act does not mean you will love her less would it?
We can choose our friends but should i say "unfortunately" we can't choose our family members. They have been written in our life-journey-book to be part of us either we like it or not.
So what does it mean to be "wise"? I have a couple of tips, and feel free to add yours:
If you dont trust a member of your family,
1) Try the person. How? Tell him or her secrets that can't hurt you and see how he or she handles it. This way, if it he or she falls into this trap, you would know what to or not to trust him or her with.  
2) Talk less and observe more.
3) Avoid speaking about big plans in your life. Let the plans fall into place before making it a dinning table conversation
4) Love him or her regardless
5) Be bold enough to confront him or her. Admit your lack of trust, and let the truth set you free
What are your tips?

My American dream

This blog is initially dedicated to my new book, "My American Dream"
Here is a short synopsis-


What would you do if you get caught up with the wrong inmates and most aggressive jail guards, before realising that you could have avoided going to jail in the first place? Upon a decision made by her well respected father, a nine year old girl from a third world country left the comfort of her parents’ home to study in America. Little did she know that her departure would not only result in a shameful return that tore her family apart but that it would leave her an unforgettable sweet and yet sour taste.

In My American Dream, the love for her family was what kept her strong but that same love was also what caused her downfall. Funkè Ojo bid farewell to her country in hope to return as a doctor someday. However the careless games of two important people in her life led to Funkè’s misfortune; she ended up in jail for a crime that she never thought could even be considered a crime! Furthermore everyone, including the judge in charge of her case believed that she had done more than confessed.

While in jail, she was treated like a criminal. However in the same jail was where her life adventure began. She met the most interesting as well as dangerous inmates, and almost got entangled in a lesbian triangle relationship. Her sweetheart whom she met via an online forum at age twenty-three found himself helpless, especially because Funkè was arrested just a couple of weeks after their wedding.

Furthermore, she needed to find out how the generally applauded African heritage of family care and support failed her. During her jail time, she wondered how she could ever get over her anger with her family and above all, God. After losing her faith in that period, she was forced to come back to God in the most unexpected way. Find out more about Funkè's adventure and what the key to her freedom was.

Keep tuned in on my blog to read extracts of the book.

"My American dream" comes out in July 2013.

Love

Welcome to my blog! I am so excited that I can finally begin this blog. The idea has been floating around in my mind for about a year now. However, I needed to make sure I get enough time allocated for my readers. I am here now and I am going to try my best to do what I do best; keep you informed and entertained!
What is my blog about? About love! I know, love is such a broad subject but the most delicate word to play around with, apart from money. Anything on love, relationship, rejection, abuse and so on, you can bet to find something here.
Please give this blog a chance. Lets put love on point.

Funkè