Friday, May 3, 2013
Tuesday, April 30, 2013
Love on the internet
How did you meet your other half?
Some people go to cafés, other to parties and clubs. Some dare to go on blind dates while some purposely go to church to get a "good girl" or a "good God fearing man." Lead me to love, we call to our maker.
However, there are those who are so busy working, that they are yet to know what daylight looks like. They keep hoping to find love too, even though they have no time to socialize.
Then there is the special category called "love on the net." These people go online just to meet their God sent. To be straight up honest about this category, I personally don't see anything wrong with it. However, it take a real skimmer; a real "discerner"; a real mature person that knows what they want, to depend on the net for a relationship.
Hoping that this is a great way to bring the right fish home can break lots of hearts, mind you. So what are the pros and cons of online dating?
Lets start with the good points:
-You get to know the person more mentally and spiritually as well as intellectually, instead of "hmm, check out them six-pack!" or "man this girl is sexy as **"
-You spend more time getting to know yourself by having to reflect on your good and bad qualities : yes these are the intro questions normally asked on an online first date
-If you dont wanna go hang out, you may stay home behind your computer, having a nice chat on skype
-You become more creative, thinking up ways to keep the relationship going
Now the bad awkward points:
-The person behind the screen could be living a double/tripple life
-You become lazy at home, waiting for your date to show up online
-You become depressed if the special someone doesn't come online after one day
-You become anxious if the special someone doesn't reply your messages, then start to cook up reasons why you are not worth his/her time
-You become more disconnected from normal social life
...the negative points roll out easily by the way :-)
But yea, there you have it. Feel free to add your own opinions :-)
***with your Google account, you can comment on this blog :-)
***All blogs are written in the expectation of Funkè Ojo's next book, "My American Dream," coming out this summer 2013
Some people go to cafés, other to parties and clubs. Some dare to go on blind dates while some purposely go to church to get a "good girl" or a "good God fearing man." Lead me to love, we call to our maker.
However, there are those who are so busy working, that they are yet to know what daylight looks like. They keep hoping to find love too, even though they have no time to socialize.
Then there is the special category called "love on the net." These people go online just to meet their God sent. To be straight up honest about this category, I personally don't see anything wrong with it. However, it take a real skimmer; a real "discerner"; a real mature person that knows what they want, to depend on the net for a relationship.
Hoping that this is a great way to bring the right fish home can break lots of hearts, mind you. So what are the pros and cons of online dating?
Lets start with the good points:
-You get to know the person more mentally and spiritually as well as intellectually, instead of "hmm, check out them six-pack!" or "man this girl is sexy as **"
-You spend more time getting to know yourself by having to reflect on your good and bad qualities : yes these are the intro questions normally asked on an online first date
-If you dont wanna go hang out, you may stay home behind your computer, having a nice chat on skype
-You become more creative, thinking up ways to keep the relationship going
Now the bad awkward points:
-The person behind the screen could be living a double/tripple life
-You become lazy at home, waiting for your date to show up online
-You become depressed if the special someone doesn't come online after one day
-You become anxious if the special someone doesn't reply your messages, then start to cook up reasons why you are not worth his/her time
-You become more disconnected from normal social life
...the negative points roll out easily by the way :-)
But yea, there you have it. Feel free to add your own opinions :-)
***with your Google account, you can comment on this blog :-)
***All blogs are written in the expectation of Funkè Ojo's next book, "My American Dream," coming out this summer 2013
Wednesday, April 17, 2013
Love on Point: Going Abroad
Love on Point: Going Abroad: My child will get the best of the best 'Cause top education is like heaven's gates So be it to sell my house and the rest For I k...
Going Abroad
My child will get the best of the best
'Cause top education is like heaven's gates
So be it to sell my house and the rest
For I know she'll make me proud in the end...(by Funkè Ojo)
These are the thoughts that linger in the minds of most parents before making that big decision to send their kids away from their roots, away from all they have learnt to love, to go study abroad. They even gamble saying, out of 5 kids if one makes it abroad then I am a happy man or woman. But who knows what the child would go through? Or the people she will meet that could change his or her life forever, either positively or negatively? The sacrifices he or she would have to make to "make it" in trying to fit into the new culture awaited? Do some ever fit in? How many commit suicide from peer pressure or simply lack of love?
Most parents would say, "oh, God will take care of him or her" or more often said "my brother is abroad, he will take good care of my child." Hmm....
Your brother abroad might also be trying to make ends meet to feed his family but for the shame of not being asked the dreadful question like "why must you sit abroad and suffer, come home," he keeps lieing to keep a front.
So parents, before you sell your most valueable land or your only family car, perhaps you could take some steps back to reflect. If your back up plan is your brother or sister abroad, remember that men can dissapoint. Period.
***with your Google account, you can comment on this blog :-)
***All blogs are written in the expectation of Funkè Ojo's next book, "My American Dream," coming out this summer
'Cause top education is like heaven's gates
So be it to sell my house and the rest
For I know she'll make me proud in the end...(by Funkè Ojo)
These are the thoughts that linger in the minds of most parents before making that big decision to send their kids away from their roots, away from all they have learnt to love, to go study abroad. They even gamble saying, out of 5 kids if one makes it abroad then I am a happy man or woman. But who knows what the child would go through? Or the people she will meet that could change his or her life forever, either positively or negatively? The sacrifices he or she would have to make to "make it" in trying to fit into the new culture awaited? Do some ever fit in? How many commit suicide from peer pressure or simply lack of love?
Most parents would say, "oh, God will take care of him or her" or more often said "my brother is abroad, he will take good care of my child." Hmm....
Your brother abroad might also be trying to make ends meet to feed his family but for the shame of not being asked the dreadful question like "why must you sit abroad and suffer, come home," he keeps lieing to keep a front.
So parents, before you sell your most valueable land or your only family car, perhaps you could take some steps back to reflect. If your back up plan is your brother or sister abroad, remember that men can dissapoint. Period.
***with your Google account, you can comment on this blog :-)
***All blogs are written in the expectation of Funkè Ojo's next book, "My American Dream," coming out this summer
Google account
Do you have a Google account or Live journal or Word press? Then you can comment on all Love on Point blogs. Your thoughts are well appreciated.
Thank you,
The blog team.
Thank you,
The blog team.
Saturday, April 13, 2013
What is a dream
A dream tells a story of hope. A story that some people might have thrown away to the way-side or buried in the most opaque container. A story where not all the characters might co-operate according to the expected end. Moreover, hope is for a change that is longed for in situations that might be too difficult to imagine.
So why do people dare to dream if it is almost beyond reach? Because almost beyond reach does not mean that it is beyond reach. The ones who dare to dream are the leaders of tomorrow. They are the hope for a change for tomorrow. I charge you to dare to dream because dreams do become reality. Maybe not today or tomorrow but how bad do you want the change? Funkè
So why do people dare to dream if it is almost beyond reach? Because almost beyond reach does not mean that it is beyond reach. The ones who dare to dream are the leaders of tomorrow. They are the hope for a change for tomorrow. I charge you to dare to dream because dreams do become reality. Maybe not today or tomorrow but how bad do you want the change? Funkè
Monday, April 8, 2013
Disappointments in the family circle
What would you do when the people you trust the most are the ones that are set up for your destruction? Would you live life more carefully by speaking less? hang out less? smile less? confide less? be more of an introvert? I dont know what you have decided but how about picking up some tips on wisdom?
The Word says wisdom is the principal thing, so in our doings, we should be wise. Because your sister cooked up how you would get caught in an act does not mean you will love her less would it?
We can choose our friends but should i say "unfortunately" we can't choose our family members. They have been written in our life-journey-book to be part of us either we like it or not.
So what does it mean to be "wise"? I have a couple of tips, and feel free to add yours:
If you dont trust a member of your family,
1) Try the person. How? Tell him or her secrets that can't hurt you and see how he or she handles it. This way, if it he or she falls into this trap, you would know what to or not to trust him or her with.
2) Talk less and observe more.
3) Avoid speaking about big plans in your life. Let the plans fall into place before making it a dinning table conversation
4) Love him or her regardless
5) Be bold enough to confront him or her. Admit your lack of trust, and let the truth set you free
What are your tips?
The Word says wisdom is the principal thing, so in our doings, we should be wise. Because your sister cooked up how you would get caught in an act does not mean you will love her less would it?
We can choose our friends but should i say "unfortunately" we can't choose our family members. They have been written in our life-journey-book to be part of us either we like it or not.
So what does it mean to be "wise"? I have a couple of tips, and feel free to add yours:
If you dont trust a member of your family,
1) Try the person. How? Tell him or her secrets that can't hurt you and see how he or she handles it. This way, if it he or she falls into this trap, you would know what to or not to trust him or her with.
2) Talk less and observe more.
3) Avoid speaking about big plans in your life. Let the plans fall into place before making it a dinning table conversation
4) Love him or her regardless
5) Be bold enough to confront him or her. Admit your lack of trust, and let the truth set you free
What are your tips?
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)